Child s Growth  Role of Parents and Schooling

(Usually, parents ask their children how many marks they scored in the examinations. Who stood first in the class? Besides, parents are keen to know if the teacher gives class assignments. Is the homework of the students checked by the teacher datly? Do teachers try to find students for professional courses? What would they like to be in a professional career, doctor, engineer lawyer or businessman? These are a bunch of questions that revolve around the minds of the parents till their wards take any professional line of their choice)

the social cultural fabric? It is also besides, are parents weaving their children the responsibility of parents to build up overall tendencies and attitudes making ambitious mundane traits in the growing generation. The same emphasis is missing to develop characteristics of sympathy, kindness, compassion, and humility along with the studies. It has been observed that scoring the top position in the examination, getting a good grade, or any achievements are the ultimate goal of parents. Whereas, imparting education on moral uprightness, sincerity, truthfulness, and empathy simultaneously are essential components for character building.

In light of the character building scenario, an example is worth quoting: A story runs like this. A seventh-class student of DAV School background found one rupee denomination currency note on the ground floor of his school. The boy picks up the note and walks straight to the headmaster's office to deliver the note found by him to the school Headmaster The Headmaster asked for the details of where he found the note and why he gave it to the Headmaster An apt answer from the boy was that the note he found could not be pocketed by him. A Rupee Note lost by any of his schoolmates might be desperately looking for: it. So the 7th-class student thought it was better to hand over the note to the school Headmaster for its return to a student who must have lost it.

On the following school working day, the 7th standard boy was showcased in the morning assembly of the school boys for his upright act. The Headmaster gave the boy a handwritten letter of appreciation at the morning assembly. The boy was elated with the recognition he got in the school. In the sixties, the rupee could fetch many small eatable items for a boy of twelve years old. The stories moral speaks about the boy's character imbibed by his parents, good company, and friends. But it is the family, parents, or the teachers in school who can play an exemplary role in inculcating the right coaching, right guidance, right thoughts, and right spirit in the students.

The impact of the family is tremendous on the good growth and in grooming of a child. The basic social mooring, values, mannerisms, etiquette, and reverential attitude get transmitted to the child in the family environment. In the early years, the children of the family were pointedly asked to get up early in the morning and to go for a morning walk to refresh body and minds was admired by the parents. Before having any loaf of bread, they were directed to wash their faces and recite the shlokas/hymn/with closed eyes for ten minutes. Washing of hands was compulsory before sitting for any meal in the family. Guests visiting the family were treated with respect and the child's participation in helping the guests feel comfortable and welcome was a sign of good behaviour. Routinely, any mendicant, fakir, saintly man entering the compound of the family was to be given an offering with love. Needy, impoverished persons begging for alms or some pieces of clothing were to be taken care of in whatever way capacity permitted. These were the practical way to infuse the spirit of being kind and having sympathy and to develop a sense of renunciation in the family.

Parental grooming was not confined to infusing moral and ethical values only. The aspects of mental growth were seriously taken care of so that the child did not get astray. Framing the timetable for studying course books is essential for allocating time for each subject and their allied school assignments. In acquiring teenage years some parents were pushing their wards to local Patshalla to learn religious scripture, especially Sandhya Patt and Bhagvathgeeta Gradually, these lessons disappeared and were substituted with sports Impression framed in the teenage group leaves an indelible imprint in the mind of a growing child. Family talk around combined dinner time on any matter that touches every life of the family members was itself lesson giving occasion. Conversation on community causes or political discourse or the economy of earning and spending money helps teenage children in the family to grasp the basics of life. For the healthy and positive growth of the children, the family and grandparents were tremendous assets. Parents and the family were the first educators and teachers to the children. Irrespective of the economic status of the family, the interactive session of the members in playing, narrating stories and sharing good thoughts were to help the children in shaping their thought processes. Even to make the child a party to any kind of purchases made by the parents in the market to give him the feel of money power in bargaining. In making great personalities in the World the role of parents and family background had a decisive contribution in chiselling those personalities the world got.

 

Along with schooling, sports activities play a tremendous role in shaping the growth of a child. It was not only the academic and skilled education a child gets in school but also assimilates a relationship of teacher and students coupled with respect and reverence for the latter. School's charted programmes of cleanliness week around the inhabited vicinity were itself a kind of environmental awareness to the students. Or the weekly exercise of checking the physical cleanliness of students by a teacher was to guzzle down the importance of self-cleaning in the student. The awareness about the World's great personalities given by the teachers in the morning assembly of the school was itself a motivational dose for growth. The annual outing for camping is organised by the school to shape leadership quality and infuse a sense of responsibility and mutual understanding of accommodation. The outings helped to get the boys close to Nature and observe its flora and fauna. The school and its teachers educate all kinds of fundamentals in terms of moral values, discipline, responsibility, commitment, cleanliness, brotherhood, and extracurricular activities that widen the mind of the students for better character building. Character-building is an important attribute of a personality.

Character Building - Role of Parents 

Most parents often ask their children how many marks they scored on the examination. Who stood first in the class? Does the teacher give class assignments to the students? Are the copies of the students checked by the teacher daily? Do they work hard to get admission to a professional college? What would they like to be in a professional career, doctor, engineer, lawyer, or businessman? These are a bunch of questions which revolve around the minds of the parents till their wards take any professional line of their choice. So in a nuclei family, the parents are burdened with the concern of inducting their siblings in multiple extra tuition classes and in the collection of subject-wise questions answered books. This is to build up mental muscles with the single objective of getting admission to professional colleges.

 

On the converse of this, there are hardly a few parents who question their wards, about helping other weak students and guiding them in their studies. Or if a seat was vacated by them in a bus to give place to an infirm, sick, ailing senior citizen? How many times their school- going children have extended help to other schoolmates in their time of need? Such questioning from the parents is unexpected. Overall tendencies and attitudes are made to build up ambitious mundane traits in the growing generation. The same emphasis is not there to develop characteristics of sympathy, kindness, compassion and humility along with the studies. Scoring the top position in the examination, getting a good grade or any -achievements are celebrated within relations and friends by parents. Whereas, imparting education on moral uprightness, sincerity, truthfulness and empathy are the essentials of character building.

In light of education on character building. an example is worth quoting. A seventh-class student of DAV School background found one rupee denomination currency note on the ground floor of his school. The boy picks up the note and walks straight to the headmaster's office to deliver the note found by him to the school Headmaster. The Headmaster asked for the details of where he found the note and why he gave it to the Headmaster. Apt came the answer from the boy, that the note was not his and how could he pocket it? It was lying on the floor near the staircase of the school. It might have fallen from the pocket of any of his school mate who might be desperately looking for the rupee note. So the 7th-class student thought it better to hand over the note to the school Headmaster for its return to a student who must have lost it. The 7th-class boy could have spent the one rupee currency note to purchase a few toffees and Eclair candy for the pleasure of his taste instead of being honest to report the incident to the Headmaster about the currency note On the following school working day, the 7th standard boy was showcased in the morning assembly of the school boys for his upright act. A handwritten letter of appreciation was presented to the boy at the morning assembly by the Headmaster. The boy got elated with the recognition he got in the school. In the sixties, the rupee could fetch many small edible items for a boy of twelve years old. It speaks about the character of the boy imbibed from his parents, good company and friends. But it is either the family, parents or the teachers in school who can play an exemplary role in inculcating the right coaching, right guidance, right thoughts and right spirit in the students.

But the impact of the family is tremendous on the good growth and in grooming of a child. The basic social mooring, values, mannerisms, etiquette, and reverential attitude get transmitted to the child in the family environment. In the early years, the children of the family were pointedly asked to get up early in the morning and to go for a morning walk to refresh body and minds was admired by the parents. Before having any loaf of bread, they were directed to wash their faces and recite the shlokas/hymn/Manter with closed eyes for ten minutes. Washing of hands was compulsory before sitting for any meal in the family. Guests visiting the family were treated with respect and the participation of the child in helping the guests to feel comfortable and welcome were signs of good behaviour. Routinely, any mendicant, fakir, saintly man entering the compound of the family was to be given an offering with love. Needy, impoverished persons begging for alms or some pieces of clothing were to be taken care of in whatever way capacity permitted. These were the practical way to infuse the spirit of being kind and having sympathy and to develop a sense of renunciation in the family. 

Parental grooming was not confined to infusing moral and ethical values only. The aspects of mental growth were seriously taken care of so that the child did not get astray. Framing the timetable for studying course books was essential for managing equal time for each subject and their allied school assignments. On acquiring teenage some parents were pushing their wards to local Patshalla to learn religious scripture, especially Sandhya Patt and Bhagvathgeeta. Generally, these lessons were skipped away to substitute with playing some sports.

Schooling of the child plays a tremendous role in shaping the growth of a child. It was not only the skilled education a child gets in school but also assimilates a relationship of teacher and students coupled with respect and reverence for the latter. School's charted programmes of cleanliness week around the inhabited vicinity were itself a kind of environmental awareness to the students. Or the weekly exercise of checking the physical cleanliness of students by a teacher was to guzzle down the importance of self-cleaning in the student. Teachers and the school educate all kinds of fundamentals in terms of discipline, punctuality, responsibility, commitment, cleanliness, brotherhood and extracurricular activities which broadens the outlook of the student for a better character. In sum totality, these traits when cultivated in the right direction and the proper manner synthesises into an aura of likeable personality around the person.

 

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Courtesy:-  Surinder Kaul  and Koshur Samachar 2023, July