A Workable Three-Point Formula For Success
I once had an occasion to interact with a group of Delhi University students, who were about to graduate, on the formulator achieving success. Theenaingdiscussion yielded differing views of success. Some said success meant achieving 'more and more'. Others said success leant achieving one's desired goals. Still thers said success meant helping others. Earl Nightingale, an American motivational speaker, known as the 'Dean Personal Development' defined success s"the progressive realisation of a worthy al".I shared my three-point formula for access with the students: first, having a alistic attitude; second, having selfonfidence; and third, patient striving. I plained that first, we should have the nviction that our goals are worthwhile: en we should have the confidence that we ive the capability to strive towards them inthe we should discipline ourselves patiently strive towards them. The first requisite of success is a realistic attitude. Realism means accepting the situation as it is rather than how we want it to be, another name for which is idealism. The greatest objection to maintaining an idealistic attitude is that it causes us to want to find the opportunities that we desire, while ignoring those which are available. The result of this is that we strive towards unrealistic goals and that leads to confrontational striving and ultimate failure. Here, contentment is the key We should be content with available opportunities, as the desired opportunitiesaremostly our goals and strive towards them based on our capabilities. Then, attaining success is only a matterof time. The second necessity for success is self-confidence; It keeps our morale high and motivates us to strive towards realistic goals. But we should remember to maintain balance in our self-confidence. This is because under-confidencedoesnot give us a strong enough motivation and overconfidence has the potential to completely destroy us by presenting an unrealistic view that makes us strive towards unrealistic goals and activities beyond our capacity Striking a balance is the key Realism helps us to understand what is possible and what is impossible in each situation, so that we are clear about our goals. Then we are ableto direct our confidence and resolve in the right direction in order to plan our activities and strive towards them with sureness. The third ingredient necessary for success is patient striving. It is a fact of life that worthy goals are generally realised only after facing difficult situations. As such, it is only through patient striving that we can achieve success. Patience means to strive while exercising restraiin difficult situations. While striving towards our goals, we can either try to confront difficult situations or exercise restraint. The former seldom leads to positive ends, and often leads to violence The latter helps us to keep our actions inthe peaceful sphere, ensuring positive results. Patience, furthermore, helps us keep a cool mind even in times of crisis, that we may plan our activities and devethe level of discipline that is essential success. The result of following this wisdom that one is able to redefine one's goals based on realities, have the self-confide to strive towards them through patient striving by keeping a cool mind and disciplining oneself to strive positively Then success is bound to follow. (The writer is member of Centre for Peace and Spirituality)
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Courtesy: Naghma Siddiqi and Speaking Tree,Times of India
A Workable Three-Point Formula For Success
I once had an occasion to interact with a group of Delhi University students, who were about to graduate, on the formulator achieving success. Theenaingdiscussion yielded differing views of success. Some said success meant achieving 'more and more'. Others said success leant achieving one's desired goals. Still thers said success meant helping others. Earl Nightingale, an American motivational speaker, known as the 'Dean Personal Development' defined success s"the progressive realisation of a worthy al".I shared my three-point formula for access with the students: first, having a alistic attitude; second, having selfonfidence; and third, patient striving. I plained that first, we should have the nviction that our goals are worthwhile: en we should have the confidence that we ive the capability to strive towards them inthe we should discipline ourselves patiently strive towards them. The first requisite of success is a realistic attitude. Realism means accepting the situation as it is rather than how we want it to be, another name for which is idealism. The greatest objection to maintaining an idealistic attitude is that it causes us to want to find the opportunities that we desire, while ignoring those which are available. The result of this is that we strive towards unrealistic goals and that leads to confrontational striving and ultimate failure. Here, contentment is the key We should be content with available opportunities, as the desired opportunitiesaremostly our goals and strive towards them based on our capabilities. Then, attaining success is only a matterof time. The second necessity for success is self-confidence; It keeps our morale high and motivates us to strive towards realistic goals. But we should remember to maintain balance in our self-confidence. This is because under-confidencedoesnot give us a strong enough motivation and overconfidence has the potential to completely destroy us by presenting an unrealistic view that makes us strive towards unrealistic goals and activities beyond our capacity Striking a balance is the key Realism helps us to understand what is possible and what is impossible in each situation, so that we are clear about our goals. Then we are ableto direct our confidence and resolve in the right direction in order to plan our activities and strive towards them with sureness. The third ingredient necessary for success is patient striving. It is a fact of life that worthy goals are generally realised only after facing difficult situations. As such, it is only through patient striving that we can achieve success. Patience means to strive while exercising restraiin difficult situations. While striving towards our goals, we can either try to confront difficult situations or exercise restraint. The former seldom leads to positive ends, and often leads to violence The latter helps us to keep our actions inthe peaceful sphere, ensuring positive results. Patience, furthermore, helps us keep a cool mind even in times of crisis, that we may plan our activities and devethe level of discipline that is essential success. The result of following this wisdom that one is able to redefine one's goals based on realities, have the self-confide to strive towards them through patient striving by keeping a cool mind and disciplining oneself to strive positively Then success is bound to follow. (The writer is member of Centre for Peace and Spirituality)
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Naghma Siddiqi views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Naghma Siddiqi and Speaking Tree,Times of India