Three Sets Of Paradoxical Needs That Drive Us
Three pairs of paradoxical needs drive human life: Certainty and uncertainty; individuality and nnectedness; having and giving. Most us get tossed between these radical needs because when one ed is satiated, the other is starved. en, you focus on satiating the latter, lay to end up starving the former. First paradox: Certainty provides der. Uncertainty provides growth. thHe order and growth are needed to malate life. And, that's the first redox. You want certainty. So, you try achieve certainty by trying to control erything around you. Now, when your e becomes completely certain, when rings become predictable, you become red. That’s why you lose interest in a Orsk that you know you can handle. So, while you want certainty, you nultaneously also want a certain amount of variety, which comes only out of uncertainty. You need surprises and challenges for you to feel fully alive. Too much certainty is boredom. But with too much uncertainty you become extremely nervous and concerned. You again seek a degree of certainty. Two sides of the same coin but you keep toggling between the two sides, causing a roller coaster ride in the flow and rhythm of your life. Second paradox: Asa physical being, you are the only one of your kind, absolutely unique and individualistic. At the same time, as a spiritual being, the also the same spirit that enlivens all. So, spiritually you are connected to one and all. Both individuality and connectivity are needed to complete life. And, that's the second paradox. As a unique individual, you need identity. You need significance. If you don’t find the right ways to feel significant, the sheer desperation to fulfil this need might even propel you to choose wrong ways to feel significant. Some people try to stand out by developing extreme problems that set them apart from others. From dressing in certain ways to carrying a certain style, all stem from this need. But, when your trumpet is too loud, others will begin to withdraw from you. That's why you lose out on relationships; at least, people begin to distance themselves. Now you feel separated. Now you feel lonely and isolated. So, you crave for connectedness. You want to be cared for and cared about. You want to feel one with the crowd. To meet this need, youjoin a fraternity or a club. Once you feel connected, you will again feel as if you have lost your own identity in a crowns, the seesaw of being tossed from one need to another only continues. Third paradox: Life is a flow and this flow is achieved through posses sand sharing. Both having and giving needed to complete life. And, that's third paradox. The need to have andtneed to give; the need to consume andthe need to contribute; the need for accumulation and the need for renunciation. The toss is between selfishness (instinctive) and unselfish(conscience). And, the oscillation is between being spiritual in giving and being materialistic in having. While everything you do will be tossed between these paradoxes, if can find a few activities in your life, which fulfils all six needs and gives that balance in life, you will discovering zeal in life... That's the secret to complete life.
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Three Sets Of Paradoxical Needs That Drive Us
Three pairs of paradoxical needs drive human life: Certainty and uncertainty; individuality and nnectedness; having and giving. Most us get tossed between these radical needs because when one ed is satiated, the other is starved. en, you focus on satiating the latter, lay to end up starving the former. First paradox: Certainty provides der. Uncertainty provides growth. thHe order and growth are needed to malate life. And, that's the first redox. You want certainty. So, you try achieve certainty by trying to control erything around you. Now, when your e becomes completely certain, when rings become predictable, you become red. That’s why you lose interest in a Orsk that you know you can handle. So, while you want certainty, you nultaneously also want a certain amount of variety, which comes only out of uncertainty. You need surprises and challenges for you to feel fully alive. Too much certainty is boredom. But with too much uncertainty you become extremely nervous and concerned. You again seek a degree of certainty. Two sides of the same coin but you keep toggling between the two sides, causing a roller coaster ride in the flow and rhythm of your life. Second paradox: Asa physical being, you are the only one of your kind, absolutely unique and individualistic. At the same time, as a spiritual being, the also the same spirit that enlivens all. So, spiritually you are connected to one and all. Both individuality and connectivity are needed to complete life. And, that's the second paradox. As a unique individual, you need identity. You need significance. If you don’t find the right ways to feel significant, the sheer desperation to fulfil this need might even propel you to choose wrong ways to feel significant. Some people try to stand out by developing extreme problems that set them apart from others. From dressing in certain ways to carrying a certain style, all stem from this need. But, when your trumpet is too loud, others will begin to withdraw from you. That's why you lose out on relationships; at least, people begin to distance themselves. Now you feel separated. Now you feel lonely and isolated. So, you crave for connectedness. You want to be cared for and cared about. You want to feel one with the crowd. To meet this need, youjoin a fraternity or a club. Once you feel connected, you will again feel as if you have lost your own identity in a crowns, the seesaw of being tossed from one need to another only continues. Third paradox: Life is a flow and this flow is achieved through posses sand sharing. Both having and giving needed to complete life. And, that's third paradox. The need to have andtneed to give; the need to consume andthe need to contribute; the need for accumulation and the need for renunciation. The toss is between selfishness (instinctive) and unselfish(conscience). And, the oscillation is between being spiritual in giving and being materialistic in having. While everything you do will be tossed between these paradoxes, if can find a few activities in your life, which fulfils all six needs and gives that balance in life, you will discovering zeal in life... That's the secret to complete life.
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Mahatria Ra views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Mahatria Ra and Speaking Tree,Times of India