Why Wallow In Self-pity, Forgive Yourself
Sitting in silence, the negative past often opens up, causing unwanted ripples in the mind. Negativity pgs. up in the form of mistakes mmitted in the past that come in any shades. Some mistakes are small tha no major consequences; others are ce a mountain which crashes on you ne and again. Some are ego-driven ing rise to rigid behaviour; compel you to take drastic action which ay be another mistake. For example at work place, credit snatchers are anywhere. But in this game of me get, many wrong moves are made, sing out either on good will or in tree cases resignation from the jobnich sometimes turns out to beat stake. Walking out of a relationship leaving a joint family or failing in e's duty for a selfish reason, often tugs emend in the quietness of late hour. In everyday conversation one often ers, 'I made a mistake, I should have taken a different route’, when lost on the way to a destination. Or when you miss a flight and scream, 'I should not be late, it is entirely my mistake. I made wrong calculations'. These are small errors committed out of habit. Their impacts only on oneself. There are people with high self-esteem who, even when they err, do not admit it, because they are full of the feeling that they are right, but the brunt of their action is borne by others. Such ego is 'hidden ego ‘which is not manifest in everyday life, but manifests itself when confronted. Very often we do not realise the impact of our actions on our dear and near ones. This also causes tussles and unhappiness, perhaps leading to more wrongdoing in handling the situation. Slight oversight in accounts calculation can cost you your job; or even an unmindful remark at the work or job can cause misunderstand dings, and can backfire as being 'uncooperative' with a sense of rejection. Past misdeeds which haunt us in silent spaces are those committed through innocence, ignorance, hastiness, foolishness and stupidity. Misunderstanding of people and situations; not being smart enough to transform situations to your advantage and win over others, or just assumptions which have severe backlash, end up harming you and your psyche by snatching your peace of mind. It is true that one who is egoistic with super selfonfidence will never admit his fault. All the blame is heaped on others. But they are the ones who are troubled by their wrongdoing the most, because every such act leaves its negative impact. How does one forget one's negative past? There are many ways. One is to see it in a positive light. Says Dada JP Vaswani: 'Every mistake is an experience. Every experience comes to teus a lesson. Till we learn the lesson, will continue to make similar mistake View every experience as a teacher; learn from your errors of judgment, how to forgive oneself? There are three ways to forget and forgive oneself for one's errors. First is understand the cause; the cause can be karmic. You have settled the previousaccount with yourself and so are free. Tap plies to unrequited love. Non-egoist actions committed are karmic, so be kinder to yourself and forgive. Second do not blame yourself for the actions other’s, especially when your advice thirdly, and this is the most importanorder to forgive yourself, you have to forgive others for their negative actiorwhich have harmed you or hurt you.
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Courtesy: Aruna Jethwani and Speaking Tree,Times of India
Why Wallow In Self-pity, Forgive Yourself
Sitting in silence, the negative past often opens up, causing unwanted ripples in the mind. Negativity pgs. up in the form of mistakes mmitted in the past that come in any shades. Some mistakes are small tha no major consequences; others are ce a mountain which crashes on you ne and again. Some are ego-driven ing rise to rigid behaviour; compel you to take drastic action which ay be another mistake. For example at work place, credit snatchers are anywhere. But in this game of me get, many wrong moves are made, sing out either on good will or in tree cases resignation from the jobnich sometimes turns out to beat stake. Walking out of a relationship leaving a joint family or failing in e's duty for a selfish reason, often tugs emend in the quietness of late hour. In everyday conversation one often ers, 'I made a mistake, I should have taken a different route’, when lost on the way to a destination. Or when you miss a flight and scream, 'I should not be late, it is entirely my mistake. I made wrong calculations'. These are small errors committed out of habit. Their impacts only on oneself. There are people with high self-esteem who, even when they err, do not admit it, because they are full of the feeling that they are right, but the brunt of their action is borne by others. Such ego is 'hidden ego ‘which is not manifest in everyday life, but manifests itself when confronted. Very often we do not realise the impact of our actions on our dear and near ones. This also causes tussles and unhappiness, perhaps leading to more wrongdoing in handling the situation. Slight oversight in accounts calculation can cost you your job; or even an unmindful remark at the work or job can cause misunderstand dings, and can backfire as being 'uncooperative' with a sense of rejection. Past misdeeds which haunt us in silent spaces are those committed through innocence, ignorance, hastiness, foolishness and stupidity. Misunderstanding of people and situations; not being smart enough to transform situations to your advantage and win over others, or just assumptions which have severe backlash, end up harming you and your psyche by snatching your peace of mind. It is true that one who is egoistic with super selfonfidence will never admit his fault. All the blame is heaped on others. But they are the ones who are troubled by their wrongdoing the most, because every such act leaves its negative impact. How does one forget one's negative past? There are many ways. One is to see it in a positive light. Says Dada JP Vaswani: 'Every mistake is an experience. Every experience comes to teus a lesson. Till we learn the lesson, will continue to make similar mistake View every experience as a teacher; learn from your errors of judgment, how to forgive oneself? There are three ways to forget and forgive oneself for one's errors. First is understand the cause; the cause can be karmic. You have settled the previousaccount with yourself and so are free. Tap plies to unrequited love. Non-egoist actions committed are karmic, so be kinder to yourself and forgive. Second do not blame yourself for the actions other’s, especially when your advice thirdly, and this is the most importanorder to forgive yourself, you have to forgive others for their negative actiorwhich have harmed you or hurt you.
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Aruna Jethwani views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Aruna Jethwani and Speaking Tree,Times of India