Practise Forgiveness Instead Of Revenge
Almost every day of our lives, we A face some kind of bad experience, big or small, which is unescapable. One has two options: either gore it or try to take some counter measures. The first option is a form of Orgiveness,while the other amounts to seeking revenge, Which is the better potion? We must decide by looking at he outcome, for that will be the determining factor. Forgiveness is the better option, for is based on a proven formula for having yourself from even worse experiences. For example, forgiveness eves you from unworthy distractions, eves your precious time, and saves you com creating even more problems. It is n instant solution to any problem. On me contrary, taking revenge is bound to complicate the problem, for that means nakingeverything go from bad to ores. Where forgiveness can buy time, aking revenge just wastes time without any benefit. In such a situation, people are generally prone to place the onus for the predicament entirely upon others. But this is an unwise reaction. The better plan is to examine one's own role in the affair. In other words, if you are having some sad experience, don't focus on the other party. Think about your own self and adopt a course of action better for you. At many times in our lives we are faced with two kinds of choices-anti-other thinking and pro-self thinking. Anti-other thinking makes you descend to the brute level, whereas pro-self thinking elevates you to a higher plane of human behaviour. If forgiveness is a full stop, revenge is punctuated by commas. Forgiveness means ending an unwanted situation, while taking revenge means endlessly extending it. Forgiveness maintains your positive thinking uninterruptedly, while revenge fosters negativity. And negative thinking can lead to all kinds of evil actions. Some would argue that forgiveness does not always work, and that it is better to adopt the tit-for-tat policy. But tit-for-tat is not a real solution; it does not end the problem, it only leads to a chain of action-reaction. Forgiveness puts an end to the problem once and for all, while a tit-for-tat policy only aggravates and prolongs it. Some might argue that the policy of forgiveness will only encourage others to indulge in further wrongdoing against us. But this runs counter to the law of nature. Psychological studies show that every human being is born with an ego and a conscience. If tree you follow the tit-for-tat policy, it arouses the ego of the other party, whereas if you follow the policy of forgiveness, it will activate the other person's conscience. And it is a fact that, in controversial matters, the conscialways plays a positive role. Forgiveness and revenge are two different moral cultures. The cult forgiveness helps in the building of better society where positive values flourish, the spirit of cooperation prevails, where disparate groups together and turn them into a peaceful society. The outcome of vengefulness is quite the reverse. A revenge culture creates an environ of mistrust, in which everyone take others to be his rivals. This rules outgrowth of a healthy society. Sooner or later, everyone is bourdon something wrong. Then the sayi'To err is human’ should be borne in mind. This being so, takingrevengemeans making Notjust one mistake making mistake after mistake. On contrary, forgiveness means undoirwrongs with rights. If to err is Huma to forgive is even more human.
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Practise Forgiveness Instead Of Revenge
Almost every day of our lives, we A face some kind of bad experience, big or small, which is unescapable. One has two options: either gore it or try to take some counter measures. The first option is a form of Orgiveness,while the other amounts to seeking revenge, Which is the better potion? We must decide by looking at he outcome, for that will be the determining factor. Forgiveness is the better option, for is based on a proven formula for having yourself from even worse experiences. For example, forgiveness eves you from unworthy distractions, eves your precious time, and saves you com creating even more problems. It is n instant solution to any problem. On me contrary, taking revenge is bound to complicate the problem, for that means nakingeverything go from bad to ores. Where forgiveness can buy time, aking revenge just wastes time without any benefit. In such a situation, people are generally prone to place the onus for the predicament entirely upon others. But this is an unwise reaction. The better plan is to examine one's own role in the affair. In other words, if you are having some sad experience, don't focus on the other party. Think about your own self and adopt a course of action better for you. At many times in our lives we are faced with two kinds of choices-anti-other thinking and pro-self thinking. Anti-other thinking makes you descend to the brute level, whereas pro-self thinking elevates you to a higher plane of human behaviour. If forgiveness is a full stop, revenge is punctuated by commas. Forgiveness means ending an unwanted situation, while taking revenge means endlessly extending it. Forgiveness maintains your positive thinking uninterruptedly, while revenge fosters negativity. And negative thinking can lead to all kinds of evil actions. Some would argue that forgiveness does not always work, and that it is better to adopt the tit-for-tat policy. But tit-for-tat is not a real solution; it does not end the problem, it only leads to a chain of action-reaction. Forgiveness puts an end to the problem once and for all, while a tit-for-tat policy only aggravates and prolongs it. Some might argue that the policy of forgiveness will only encourage others to indulge in further wrongdoing against us. But this runs counter to the law of nature. Psychological studies show that every human being is born with an ego and a conscience. If tree you follow the tit-for-tat policy, it arouses the ego of the other party, whereas if you follow the policy of forgiveness, it will activate the other person's conscience. And it is a fact that, in controversial matters, the conscialways plays a positive role. Forgiveness and revenge are two different moral cultures. The cult forgiveness helps in the building of better society where positive values flourish, the spirit of cooperation prevails, where disparate groups together and turn them into a peaceful society. The outcome of vengefulness is quite the reverse. A revenge culture creates an environ of mistrust, in which everyone take others to be his rivals. This rules outgrowth of a healthy society. Sooner or later, everyone is bourdon something wrong. Then the sayi'To err is human’ should be borne in mind. This being so, takingrevengemeans making Notjust one mistake making mistake after mistake. On contrary, forgiveness means undoirwrongs with rights. If to err is Huma to forgive is even more human.
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Maulana Wahiduddin Khan views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Maulana Wahiduddin Khan and Speaking Tree ,Times of India