The Perfect Relationship Is Not A Chimera
Relationships are such an integral part of our lives. They very often define our life, our philosophy of existence and most importantly define ourselves. Using the rather clichéd classification so routine in our medical school, one could broadly classify relationships into three categories: congenital, essential and acquired. The congenital ones quite simply are blood relatives. Essential relationships are mandated by circumstances such as those related to work, study, or one's neighbourhood. Acquired relationships are ones that we electively choose to initiate, nurture and maintain. These typically include our spouse, partners, companions, close friends, mentors and spiritual guides. Congenital relationships are in most cases defined and limited by their nomenclature, instincts, social conditioning, and are largely conformist role playing. They have a default setting, and the bonding, affinity and connect is based on a kind of psychological programming. Most often, one does not have the option of ending these pre-set equations, unless the circumstances are extremely mitigating or the person concerned is veering towards a pathological disposition. Essential relationships are quasi voluntary, and could be restricted to perfunctory courtesies, or then elevated to а more intense interaction that depends on reciprocity and mutual understanding. They do however present the opportunity and proximity to foster a more substantive and meaningful interaction with the potential to develop into a long term, profound association. Acquired relationships are ones that one chooses to pursue, invest time and emotions, and looks to them to enrich one's life, in one way or other. These equations are never subject to any compulsion; they can be called off any time if the situation demands, and are entirely in the domain of one's own volition and free will. My good fortune and intensity as a seeker opened the doors of a 'perfect relationship’. Interaction with Him was a realisation of sorts. Rather it revealed an entire new dimension to relationships. A relationship that never asked questions but only revealed answers. One that never demanded love, only gave it. A presence which one could bask in. An interaction with not the slightest trace of expectation. A companion who never affirmed His existence as a distinct, discrete entity, but rather an extension of my own Being. A person whose eyes reflected pure unadulterated joy and ecstasy on meeting, but never afflicted by the pain of separation. This was an experience that wasimultaneously the warmth of a mother, the comforting reassuranfather, the joy and happiness of a lone, the spontaneity and innocence infant. A silence that was divineloquent, a moment that lasted for eternity. A state of mind that transcended me and mine, you and your feeling of resonance that united a non-dual oneness. It was a union overcame the illusion of separatist his perfect relationship neveanswered the 'why' of my existenmost certainly provided me the arto the 'how' of existence. It made aware that my existence is not carto any form or identity. True happens never subservient or hostage cause. It taught me there is nothirlearn, only to experience. It never me all the answers. Instead, it ma realise the futility of seeking tree
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The views expressed in the Article above are Deepak M Ranade views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Deepak M Ranade and Speaking Tree,Times of India
The Perfect Relationship Is Not A Chimera
Relationships are such an integral part of our lives. They very often define our life, our philosophy of existence and most importantly define ourselves. Using the rather clichéd classification so routine in our medical school, one could broadly classify relationships into three categories: congenital, essential and acquired. The congenital ones quite simply are blood relatives. Essential relationships are mandated by circumstances such as those related to work, study, or one's neighbourhood. Acquired relationships are ones that we electively choose to initiate, nurture and maintain. These typically include our spouse, partners, companions, close friends, mentors and spiritual guides. Congenital relationships are in most cases defined and limited by their nomenclature, instincts, social conditioning, and are largely conformist role playing. They have a default setting, and the bonding, affinity and connect is based on a kind of psychological programming. Most often, one does not have the option of ending these pre-set equations, unless the circumstances are extremely mitigating or the person concerned is veering towards a pathological disposition. Essential relationships are quasi voluntary, and could be restricted to perfunctory courtesies, or then elevated to а more intense interaction that depends on reciprocity and mutual understanding. They do however present the opportunity and proximity to foster a more substantive and meaningful interaction with the potential to develop into a long term, profound association. Acquired relationships are ones that one chooses to pursue, invest time and emotions, and looks to them to enrich one's life, in one way or other. These equations are never subject to any compulsion; they can be called off any time if the situation demands, and are entirely in the domain of one's own volition and free will. My good fortune and intensity as a seeker opened the doors of a 'perfect relationship’. Interaction with Him was a realisation of sorts. Rather it revealed an entire new dimension to relationships. A relationship that never asked questions but only revealed answers. One that never demanded love, only gave it. A presence which one could bask in. An interaction with not the slightest trace of expectation. A companion who never affirmed His existence as a distinct, discrete entity, but rather an extension of my own Being. A person whose eyes reflected pure unadulterated joy and ecstasy on meeting, but never afflicted by the pain of separation. This was an experience that wasimultaneously the warmth of a mother, the comforting reassuranfather, the joy and happiness of a lone, the spontaneity and innocence infant. A silence that was divineloquent, a moment that lasted for eternity. A state of mind that transcended me and mine, you and your feeling of resonance that united a non-dual oneness. It was a union overcame the illusion of separatist his perfect relationship neveanswered the 'why' of my existenmost certainly provided me the arto the 'how' of existence. It made aware that my existence is not carto any form or identity. True happens never subservient or hostage cause. It taught me there is nothirlearn, only to experience. It never me all the answers. Instead, it ma realise the futility of seeking tree
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Deepak M Ranade views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Deepak M Ranade and Speaking Tree,Times of India