For Relationships To Thrive, Reciprocity Is Essential
In any relationship, what matters, most is reciprocity without it, all relations lose their intensity. Sylvia Plath wrote the above words to her abusive husband and British poet laureate Ted Hughes. Not just in a love or family affair, reciprocity or mutual intensity is an ineluctable condition in all interactions of life. Agreed, it's well-nigh impossible to maintain the same level of reciprocal warmth or intensity, but it must not be ridiculously tilted towards one side. 'Ek madam tum bandha, ek madam hum Khadi rashness right nahin Banta, Sanyam. "Take one step, I too will take a step/ Relation will not develop, if you stand still.' Relationships thrive in an atmosphere of mutual understanding and cooperation. We often take the other person or a bond for granted and when we take something for granted, we take it for a ride. A kind of frivolity and flippancy creep in.Equal efforts must be taken from both persons involved for the survival of a relationship, whether it's between two individuals or two countries. East and West Germany's equal endeavours helped them get together and a united Germany emerged not so long ago. Scientists like Robin Hadith and Mortimer Lagoons at Colombia University, New York concluded in 2001 that reciprocity between two individuals works like telepathy. 'Lovers feel hurt together/they feel joyous at the same time/When there's an element of equality/ Works to make their union sublime, ‘wrote Robert Southey. Reciprocity blossoms into tree empathy, and it's the most exalted human trait. When Nakul asked Bhishma, the grand patriarch of the Mahabharata, the night before Kurukshetra, as to what was the actual reason for this inevitable confrontation between Karakas and Pandeva’s, Bhishma told him in one line: 'Paarsparyam avnati vadanti' -"The decline of reciprocity between the two. When reciprocity suffers or dwindles, misunderstanding raises its ugly head and things go haywire. Nowadays, relationships soon develop cracks because we fail to reciprocate the other person's gestures, moves and actions. There's no mutual admiration or even admonition. The cocooned existence doesn't help a person reach out to the other one and reciprocate on the same wavelength. Psychologist William James called it, 'Breakdown in emotional intimacy In 1972, when Pakistan's then Prime Minister Zuleika Ali Bhutto visited India along with his charming young daughter Benazir Bhutto to sign the Shimla Pact, Benazir shook the hands of the then Indian premaster, Indira Gandhi and said, 'Mrshi, I hope, the reciprocal emotion bonding will remain forever. Thodidn't last long, young Benazir’ swords impressed the seasoned M Gandhiand she assured that therelation between the two countriwould be 'reciprocally' nice and 'Jazba dono(n) jaanib barabamumkin hai Ek din safari ranjishein mit kerahengi. 'If feelings on both sides aresChances are that one day, enmitywiped out.' Equality of emotions is indeeimportant inthis age of violence gore. Only with a reciprocal apprand 'mutually interwoven think can we bring people and nations together. Friendly relations-between people or national governments-need not remain a pipe day.
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For Relationships To Thrive, Reciprocity Is Essential
In any relationship, what matters, most is reciprocity without it, all relations lose their intensity. Sylvia Plath wrote the above words to her abusive husband and British poet laureate Ted Hughes. Not just in a love or family affair, reciprocity or mutual intensity is an ineluctable condition in all interactions of life. Agreed, it's well-nigh impossible to maintain the same level of reciprocal warmth or intensity, but it must not be ridiculously tilted towards one side. 'Ek madam tum bandha, ek madam hum Khadi rashness right nahin Banta, Sanyam. "Take one step, I too will take a step/ Relation will not develop, if you stand still.' Relationships thrive in an atmosphere of mutual understanding and cooperation. We often take the other person or a bond for granted and when we take something for granted, we take it for a ride. A kind of frivolity and flippancy creep in.Equal efforts must be taken from both persons involved for the survival of a relationship, whether it's between two individuals or two countries. East and West Germany's equal endeavours helped them get together and a united Germany emerged not so long ago. Scientists like Robin Hadith and Mortimer Lagoons at Colombia University, New York concluded in 2001 that reciprocity between two individuals works like telepathy. 'Lovers feel hurt together/they feel joyous at the same time/When there's an element of equality/ Works to make their union sublime, ‘wrote Robert Southey. Reciprocity blossoms into tree empathy, and it's the most exalted human trait. When Nakul asked Bhishma, the grand patriarch of the Mahabharata, the night before Kurukshetra, as to what was the actual reason for this inevitable confrontation between Karakas and Pandeva’s, Bhishma told him in one line: 'Paarsparyam avnati vadanti' -"The decline of reciprocity between the two. When reciprocity suffers or dwindles, misunderstanding raises its ugly head and things go haywire. Nowadays, relationships soon develop cracks because we fail to reciprocate the other person's gestures, moves and actions. There's no mutual admiration or even admonition. The cocooned existence doesn't help a person reach out to the other one and reciprocate on the same wavelength. Psychologist William James called it, 'Breakdown in emotional intimacy In 1972, when Pakistan's then Prime Minister Zuleika Ali Bhutto visited India along with his charming young daughter Benazir Bhutto to sign the Shimla Pact, Benazir shook the hands of the then Indian premaster, Indira Gandhi and said, 'Mrshi, I hope, the reciprocal emotion bonding will remain forever. Thodidn't last long, young Benazir’ swords impressed the seasoned M Gandhiand she assured that therelation between the two countriwould be 'reciprocally' nice and 'Jazba dono(n) jaanib barabamumkin hai Ek din safari ranjishein mit kerahengi. 'If feelings on both sides aresChances are that one day, enmitywiped out.' Equality of emotions is indeeimportant inthis age of violence gore. Only with a reciprocal apprand 'mutually interwoven think can we bring people and nations together. Friendly relations-between people or national governments-need not remain a pipe day.
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Sumit Paul and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Sumit Paul and Speaking Tree,Times of India