Be The Change You Want To See In Others
We have learnt from modern psychology that nobody wants to be told what to do by someone else. We resist when someone tries to make us do something in a new way. Yet, we persist in trying to change others. If we want others to change their ways, telling them to do so will have little effect unless we are living examples of that behaviour. A team of researchers went to Africa to study the behaviour of elephants. They came across a herd of elephants running wild, and destroying their environment. They discovered that these were all teenage male elephants. They had no adult role models to learn from. The researchers arranged to have some adult elephants brought in. In the beginning, there was no change and the teen elephants continued to run wild and fight each other. However, after a few days the teen elephants began to settle down. Over time, they became well behaved and their wild actions subside. On their own, the teen elephants had no role models and did not know how to behave. Once adults were introduced into their group, the teens had role models and began to be disciplined. In the same way, as parents, we teach our children through loving discipline and by setting an example. Our children do not believe in our words alone but in what they see us do. They copy our own good and bad habits because that is the example we set. Similarly, when we are ina position to train or teach others -whether we are teachers, parents, employers, or citizens imploring others to be conscientious must first set an example ourselves. That is the only way to bring about change. If we want to see positive change in others and in our family, neighbourhood, community, society, or country, then we need to set a good example. Meditation helps to transform us; it brings us peace and calm. We develop qualities of forgiveness, compassion, patience and understanding. With empathy we try to think of how the world looks through other people's eyes. If each of us could treat others with patience, love and understanding, this world would be more peaceful and loving. Just as we do not want anyone criticising or changing us, so do other people dislike the being interfered with. All we can speaking tree do is work on ourselves. The greatest innovations in our world have become popular by example. When we find that anew product, service, or technique is benefiting someone else, we ourselves feel motivated to try it. If someone told us to try it, we tend to resist. How ewe observe the positive results thatcher’s are experiencing, then we to test it out for ourselves. If we find peace ourselves, our will be transformed and others wicurious as to why we are experiensuchjoy and happiness in our live people we meet at our jobs, in our community, or in our own family impressed by the transformationhave undergone. They themselves want to learn how we achieved it.When Benjamin Franklin impthe streetlight, he could not find ato try it in front of their homes. Rathan trying to convince others of practicality and usefulness, hemeput the new streetlight in front of own home. Within a short periodtime, everyone in his neighbourhoinstalled one, too. Example is one greatest teachers.
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Courtesy: Sant Rajinder Singh and Speaking Tree,Times of India
Be The Change You Want To See In Others
We have learnt from modern psychology that nobody wants to be told what to do by someone else. We resist when someone tries to make us do something in a new way. Yet, we persist in trying to change others. If we want others to change their ways, telling them to do so will have little effect unless we are living examples of that behaviour. A team of researchers went to Africa to study the behaviour of elephants. They came across a herd of elephants running wild, and destroying their environment. They discovered that these were all teenage male elephants. They had no adult role models to learn from. The researchers arranged to have some adult elephants brought in. In the beginning, there was no change and the teen elephants continued to run wild and fight each other. However, after a few days the teen elephants began to settle down. Over time, they became well behaved and their wild actions subside. On their own, the teen elephants had no role models and did not know how to behave. Once adults were introduced into their group, the teens had role models and began to be disciplined. In the same way, as parents, we teach our children through loving discipline and by setting an example. Our children do not believe in our words alone but in what they see us do. They copy our own good and bad habits because that is the example we set. Similarly, when we are ina position to train or teach others -whether we are teachers, parents, employers, or citizens imploring others to be conscientious must first set an example ourselves. That is the only way to bring about change. If we want to see positive change in others and in our family, neighbourhood, community, society, or country, then we need to set a good example. Meditation helps to transform us; it brings us peace and calm. We develop qualities of forgiveness, compassion, patience and understanding. With empathy we try to think of how the world looks through other people's eyes. If each of us could treat others with patience, love and understanding, this world would be more peaceful and loving. Just as we do not want anyone criticising or changing us, so do other people dislike the being interfered with. All we can speaking tree do is work on ourselves. The greatest innovations in our world have become popular by example. When we find that anew product, service, or technique is benefiting someone else, we ourselves feel motivated to try it. If someone told us to try it, we tend to resist. How ewe observe the positive results thatcher’s are experiencing, then we to test it out for ourselves. If we find peace ourselves, our will be transformed and others wicurious as to why we are experiensuchjoy and happiness in our live people we meet at our jobs, in our community, or in our own family impressed by the transformationhave undergone. They themselves want to learn how we achieved it.When Benjamin Franklin impthe streetlight, he could not find ato try it in front of their homes. Rathan trying to convince others of practicality and usefulness, hemeput the new streetlight in front of own home. Within a short periodtime, everyone in his neighbourhoinstalled one, too. Example is one greatest teachers.
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Sant Rajinder Singh and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Sant Rajinder Singh and Speaking Tree,Times of India