The Slippery Slope Of Subjective Judgment
When we meet people, how do we decide whether we wantto associate with them inthe ture? What kind of relationship do want to have with them? How do we ecide whether we like or dislike their aracter? The answer comes naturally. first impression based on our instinct. Dogs are known to be masters of this t, but we are not. How then do we base most important decisions in our life 1a tentative process? It is possible that ir instinct is accurate. But instinct ads to an assumption of certain pernality traits in the other. Premature idgments blend into biases, which inforce our initial appraisal. Premature judgment is therefore nerror. Through this logical analysis the mind's processes, one could include that instinct is irrational. That we need to develop is a dependable intuition, which unlike instinct is based a knowledge experience and logic. The solution probably les in thedevel open of an objective, personalised scale for the measurement of character. Personalised in the preceding sentence unfortunately reduces the scale's applicability to oneself only; but with 'objective' being the encouragement, i shall continue. The three broad windows into character are actions, words and, most significantly, thoughts. Our actions reflect our personality. We often tailor our behaviour to the exigencies of situations. Weal so try to fashion images and impressions of and for ourselves. This results in an inaccurate perception. Handshakes and 'walks ‘are examples of frequently customised actions. They are, consequently, useless as mirrors of personality. Clothes, hand movements, postures and eye direction could be candid indicators. What we make of our observations depends on what we are looking for strength of eye contact, attire or posture. Moving on to the second criterion, here i find myself in a quandary: A judgment on words depends on the topic selected and how it is introduced. To solve the problem, i never introduce the topic. How we introduce the topic and our personal likes and dislikes reflect on our perception of ourselves. The selection of a dreary topic like the weather spells indistinctiveness and lack of imagination. The highest scoring topic is one related to the reason for the conversation itself. I realise the reader’s anxiety to move on to thought, the third category, since the word comes with so much meaning attached. To gauge thought is an art. It is the essence of this judgment scale of character. There are certain prerequisites for an accurate interpretation of thought. We must learn, first, to 'feel' our thoughts rather than 'think' them. Thinking our thoughts might make us construct them consciously. Feeling gives our thoughts a naturalness andspontaneity. In essence, we must letoumind flood withthoughts from withonot construct them within. Second, we must learnto empathise Understanding and compassion standobjective judgment. A feeling encompaes all the emotions generated at that tin Words can mislead but it seems that feeings never quite fail. That is why denting a feeling is essential.I am not declaing thoughts to be objective.Thoughtsare subjective but can be interpreted objectively, and this is possible through the mastery of these two directives. While applying this technique, i finmyself with a residual hope. To meet thperfect person is and shallalways rem due. The person i hope to meet is somecwho is not 'mentally immune'toa straer's feeling-his pain, agony and loss. Easy for us to care only for people we arclose to-our loved and known ones. Our heart has yet to look beyond.
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The Slippery Slope Of Subjective Judgment
When we meet people, how do we decide whether we wantto associate with them inthe ture? What kind of relationship do want to have with them? How do we ecide whether we like or dislike their aracter? The answer comes naturally. first impression based on our instinct. Dogs are known to be masters of this t, but we are not. How then do we base most important decisions in our life 1a tentative process? It is possible that ir instinct is accurate. But instinct ads to an assumption of certain pernality traits in the other. Premature idgments blend into biases, which inforce our initial appraisal. Premature judgment is therefore nerror. Through this logical analysis the mind's processes, one could include that instinct is irrational. That we need to develop is a dependable intuition, which unlike instinct is based a knowledge experience and logic. The solution probably les in thedevel open of an objective, personalised scale for the measurement of character. Personalised in the preceding sentence unfortunately reduces the scale's applicability to oneself only; but with 'objective' being the encouragement, i shall continue. The three broad windows into character are actions, words and, most significantly, thoughts. Our actions reflect our personality. We often tailor our behaviour to the exigencies of situations. Weal so try to fashion images and impressions of and for ourselves. This results in an inaccurate perception. Handshakes and 'walks ‘are examples of frequently customised actions. They are, consequently, useless as mirrors of personality. Clothes, hand movements, postures and eye direction could be candid indicators. What we make of our observations depends on what we are looking for strength of eye contact, attire or posture. Moving on to the second criterion, here i find myself in a quandary: A judgment on words depends on the topic selected and how it is introduced. To solve the problem, i never introduce the topic. How we introduce the topic and our personal likes and dislikes reflect on our perception of ourselves. The selection of a dreary topic like the weather spells indistinctiveness and lack of imagination. The highest scoring topic is one related to the reason for the conversation itself. I realise the reader’s anxiety to move on to thought, the third category, since the word comes with so much meaning attached. To gauge thought is an art. It is the essence of this judgment scale of character. There are certain prerequisites for an accurate interpretation of thought. We must learn, first, to 'feel' our thoughts rather than 'think' them. Thinking our thoughts might make us construct them consciously. Feeling gives our thoughts a naturalness andspontaneity. In essence, we must letoumind flood withthoughts from withonot construct them within. Second, we must learnto empathise Understanding and compassion standobjective judgment. A feeling encompaes all the emotions generated at that tin Words can mislead but it seems that feeings never quite fail. That is why denting a feeling is essential.I am not declaing thoughts to be objective.Thoughtsare subjective but can be interpreted objectively, and this is possible through the mastery of these two directives. While applying this technique, i finmyself with a residual hope. To meet thperfect person is and shallalways rem due. The person i hope to meet is somecwho is not 'mentally immune'toa straer's feeling-his pain, agony and loss. Easy for us to care only for people we arclose to-our loved and known ones. Our heart has yet to look beyond.
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Anand Vardhan Kanoria kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy : Anand Vardhan Kanoria Speaking Tree , Times of India