Why People Are Violent Towards Themselves
We are livingin times of in- creasing violence-towards you and me. A majority of individuals are attacking their body, mind and consciousness. A child may tell you that he hits himself when people do not meet his demands, an adolescent will justify the need to take steroids to bulk his body and look attractive, a young professional may claim that he must renounce his ethical values to attain quick success, an entrepreneur might be compromising his close relationships to retain top position, an addict could refuse to quit drugs despite health hazards, an elderly diabetic patient might claim that he cannot cut down on sweets as they make him happy and a rejected lover could possibly conclude that suicide is a better option than tolerating the pain. Violence towards self makes us miserable and diseased physically, psychologically and spiritually. It is a paradox that though all of us crave to be loved and cared for by the world, we lack compassion and nurturanceforour own self. This paradox is also responsible for making many people callous towards others. Someone who does not have affection for himself is incapable of understanding and loving others. The roots of this paradox lie in lack of self-awareness and faulty identifications. We are living in times where hedonisticneeds of mind are given priority over everything else. Due to this faulty identification we let these needs rule our psyche. The person ignores deeper and positive aspects of Self and tortures himself in obsessing about the mundane. He is just focussed on seeking quick pleasure and avoiding pain. This leads to several dysfunctional behaviours. Secondly, when people rebuke us for the traits that they don't like in ourselves we also identify with their denigration and become self critical. Often, the benign self-criticism turns into malignant self-hatred. Thirdly, all of us carry an ideal image of how we should be. However, most of us fall short of this 'ideal image'. The real self is not as grand as we would wish it to be, which adds to our existing self-hatred. To get rid of this self-hatred we are focussed on the speaking tree trivial goals for quick fix and ignore the larger picture. This creates psychological crisis in the long run and escalates our self-hatred. Would it not be wonderful if we can find a storehouse of love within ourselves by resolving this self-hatred? That will make us fulfilled and also enable us to extend compassion to others. By developing Self-awareness and dealing with faulty identifications we can put an end to self-violence. People need to develop empathy for their whole Self-body, mind and consciousness and address its various needs. Ваthekey. One must move beyondthmundane by introspecting aboutfutility repeatedly. Once we lesseidentification with the mundaneopen up to our real Self that lies din each one of us. Also, remember that the negaopinion people give you is rootedtheir own subjectivity. These opiare not the absolute truth and weanalyse them carefully before bethem. Keep the image of your idein mind but don't feel miserabletaking you time to realise it. Selfa long journey that requires patiand perseverance. When even chbegins at home, how can one expworld peace to exist without peawithin oneself? (The writer is a cpsychologist.)
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Why People Are Violent Towards Themselves
We are livingin times of in- creasing violence-towards you and me. A majority of individuals are attacking their body, mind and consciousness. A child may tell you that he hits himself when people do not meet his demands, an adolescent will justify the need to take steroids to bulk his body and look attractive, a young professional may claim that he must renounce his ethical values to attain quick success, an entrepreneur might be compromising his close relationships to retain top position, an addict could refuse to quit drugs despite health hazards, an elderly diabetic patient might claim that he cannot cut down on sweets as they make him happy and a rejected lover could possibly conclude that suicide is a better option than tolerating the pain. Violence towards self makes us miserable and diseased physically, psychologically and spiritually. It is a paradox that though all of us crave to be loved and cared for by the world, we lack compassion and nurturanceforour own self. This paradox is also responsible for making many people callous towards others. Someone who does not have affection for himself is incapable of understanding and loving others. The roots of this paradox lie in lack of self-awareness and faulty identifications. We are living in times where hedonisticneeds of mind are given priority over everything else. Due to this faulty identification we let these needs rule our psyche. The person ignores deeper and positive aspects of Self and tortures himself in obsessing about the mundane. He is just focussed on seeking quick pleasure and avoiding pain. This leads to several dysfunctional behaviours. Secondly, when people rebuke us for the traits that they don't like in ourselves we also identify with their denigration and become self critical. Often, the benign self-criticism turns into malignant self-hatred. Thirdly, all of us carry an ideal image of how we should be. However, most of us fall short of this 'ideal image'. The real self is not as grand as we would wish it to be, which adds to our existing self-hatred. To get rid of this self-hatred we are focussed on the speaking tree trivial goals for quick fix and ignore the larger picture. This creates psychological crisis in the long run and escalates our self-hatred. Would it not be wonderful if we can find a storehouse of love within ourselves by resolving this self-hatred? That will make us fulfilled and also enable us to extend compassion to others. By developing Self-awareness and dealing with faulty identifications we can put an end to self-violence. People need to develop empathy for their whole Self-body, mind and consciousness and address its various needs. Ваthekey. One must move beyondthmundane by introspecting aboutfutility repeatedly. Once we lesseidentification with the mundaneopen up to our real Self that lies din each one of us. Also, remember that the negaopinion people give you is rootedtheir own subjectivity. These opiare not the absolute truth and weanalyse them carefully before bethem. Keep the image of your idein mind but don't feel miserabletaking you time to realise it. Selfa long journey that requires patiand perseverance. When even chbegins at home, how can one expworld peace to exist without peawithin oneself? (The writer is a cpsychologist.)
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Pulkit Sharma kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy : Pulkit Sharma Speaking Tree,Times of India